对于直接邀请你喜欢的人外出，这其中的种种好处(成功机率更高)我之前就曾聊过。同样对于那些内向或者易于焦虑的人，我也介绍过一些委婉邀请女生或者男生的外出方式。而且，这些请求只要在说服上略施心机，必事半功倍。

接着上述话题，研究表明，先用一个小小的请求开头，那么对方同意下一步约会的可能性会更大。这种现象被称作“门槛”效应。基本上来说，一旦某人同意最初的小请求，他们的认同感会提升，态度更加积极，对于接下来的第二个稍高一些的请求会感到更舒适。这种现象适用于所有的劝说情景，从销售，到捐款，再到各种利他活动。显而易见，对邀约也适用。

一脚踏入约会之门

Gueguen和他的助手们做了一个关于“门槛”效应是否适用于邀约的实验。他们引导3名年轻的男性参与者(19-21岁不等)，身穿牛仔裤和板鞋，简单大方。在法国购物之地闲逛，邀请378个年轻女子外出(18-22岁不等)。随机挑选，男生或者直接邀请女性外出，或者先让女生帮自己一个小忙(比如借打火机或者问路)。所用请求如下：

直接请求：

“你好，抱歉打扰你了，请问你现在忙吗?如果不忙而又空闲的话，我们可否去喝一杯?”

先说小请求：

“你好，抱歉打扰你了，请问你有打火机吗?”或者“你好，抱歉打扰你了，能告诉我解放广场怎么走吗?”

如果女生借了你火机或者为你指路，那么接着男生就说，“十分感谢，你现在忙吗?不忙的话，有时间我们喝一杯吧。”

如果女生没有火机或者没有指明方向，男生就接着说，“没关系，你现在忙吗?不忙的话，有时间我们就一起喝一杯吧。”

实验的结果表明，如果女生一开始借了火机或者为男生指路，则之后接受邀约的可能性更高。具体来说，只有3.3%的女生接受了直接邀请，而15%的女生在借出火机之后同意邀约，另外15.8%的女生在指路之后同意邀约。这个比例对于提出各种请求的3个男生来说基本相同。所以说，先用小的请求开口，确实让女生更容易接受约会—基本和“门槛”效应在别的情况中发挥的作用是一致的。

完美的约会请求

尽管效果如此明显，但是总体上女生同意外出的比例仍低于别的研究。这个差别也许是基于以下原因：(也是希望帮助你邀约成功)

个人情况：在上述试验中，25.4%的女生拒绝邀请是因为她们本身已经有固定的对象。而以前的研究是主要集中对单身者的邀请。所以，人们一般单身的时候更倾向于同意邀约。

约会时间：在上述试验中，19.1%的女生拒绝邀请是因为她们没时间马上赴约。以前的研究一般把约会定在几天之后或者周末，给了对方更多时间准备。所以说，人们在有时间准备的情况下，更容易同意外出。

地点：上述实验是在购物中心进行的，而别的实验一般在校园。地点也会带来很大的差别，特别是当所谓的“陌生人”和你已经有共同点，(比如都是学生)。因此，相互有共同点和相对安全的邀约环境这些都会会提升接受比例。

吸引力：上述试验中并没有提到几个男生的吸引力的作用(穿板鞋和牛仔裤之外所展示的魅力)。而其他的研究都对参与者的魅力要求更为具体(是由异性打分所确定)，也确实证实有所益处。总体来说，精心打扮也是提高成功机率的手段之一。

受邀者性别：上述实验只是男生邀请女生。而别的研究也有女生邀请男生。基本上来说，男士更容易接受约会邀请。

总结

综合上述来说，先提出一个小的请求肯定可以增加之后邀约的成功率。但是，如果这个小请求再能和其它几个因素相得益彰，则更易成功。具体来说，锁定单身，在和你有共性的地点提出邀约都有助于成功。还有在邀请时一定要精心打扮一番。而且，最好给对方留有时间，并不是要马上赴约。一开始提出一个小的请求有助于打破双方尴尬。对于有魅力的陌生人，或者是已经认识的暗恋对象，你绝对是有胜算邀请她们赴约。

For those of you who have been invited to go out, these are all good (the more successful you are). Also, I have also introduced a number of ways to invite girls and boys to go out of the way. But, as long as these requests in a talk on scheming, will multiplier. nbkaijiang.com ywschxb.cn lfbingang.com

Then the above, the research shows that the first with a small request to start, then the other party to agree to the possibility of a further date. This phenomenon is called the "threshold" effect. Basically, once a person agrees with the initial small request, their identity will be increased, and the attitude is more positive, for the next second slightly higher request will feel more comfortable. This phenomenon applies to all of the persuasion scenarios, from sales, to donations, and then to a variety of altruistic activities. Obviously, for an invitation.

Foot in the door of the date

Gueguen and his associates on a "threshold" effect is applicable to offer experiment. They lead 3 young male participants (19-21 years old), dressed in jeans and sneakers, simple and generous. Shopping in France, the 378 young women to go out (18-22 years old). Randomly selected, boys or directly inviting women to going out, or let the girls do yourself a favour (such as the use of lighter or directions). The request is as follows:

Direct request:

"Hello, I'm sorry to bother you, would you be busy now?"

Say a small request: hditlu.com cnxinhan.cn

"Hello, I am sorry to bother you, do you have a lighter?" or "Hello, I'm sorry to bother you, can you tell me how to liberate the square?"

If the girl borrow your lighter or guiding you, then the boy said, "thank you very much, are you busy now? Is not busy, we drink a cup of it."

If there is no girl lighter or not specified in the direction of the boys went on to say, "it doesn't matter, are you busy now? Is not busy, we went together to drink a cup of it."

The experimental results show that if a girl began to borrow the lighter or guide the boys, after receiving the invitation is more likely. Specifically, only 3.3% of girls accepted the invitation directly, and 15% of girls after the lending of lighter consent solicitation, also to 15.8% of girls in guiding after consent solicitation. This ratio is basically the same as the 3 boys who put forward all kinds of requests. So, first with a small request to open, it is easier for girls to accept the appointment - the basic and the threshold effect in other circumstances to play the role is consistent.

Perfect dating request

Although the effect is so obvious, but the overall proportion of girls agree to go out is still less than other studies. The difference may be based on the following reasons: (also want to help you offer success)

Personal information: in the above tests, 25.4% of the girls refused to be invited because they already have a fixed object. While previous studies were mainly

focused on the single person's invitation. So, people generally single when more inclined to agree with the invitation.

Date: in the experiment, 19.1% of the girls refused the invitation because they didn't have time to go immediately. Previous research has typically set the date in a few days or weekends, giving the other more time to prepare. So, people are more likely to agree to go out when people have time to prepare.

Location: the experiment was conducted in the shopping center, and other experiments are generally on the campus. Place will also bring a lot of difference, especially when the so-called "stranger" and you have a common point, (for example, students). Therefore, each have in common and relatively safe environment will enhance these offer acceptance ratio.

Appeal: there was no mention of several boys in the appeal (to wear shoes and jeans in the above tests outside the display charm. While other studies have been more specific to the appeal of the participants (as determined by the opposite sex), it does prove to be good. Overall, well dressed is one of the means to improve the chances of success.

Invited by gender: the above experiment is only a boy invited girls. And other studies also have girls to invite the boys. Basically, men are more likely to accept a date.

Summary

Above all, put forward a small request that can increase the success rate after the invitation. However, if this small request and other factors can complement each other, it is more likely to succeed. Specifically, in the common single lock, and your site offer help to success. There must be a careful look at the invitation. Moreover, the best time to leave each other, and not to go. At the beginning, a small request was proposed to break down the two sides. The attractive stranger, or already know like object, you definitely have a chance to invite them for an appointment.

 

第二篇：邀请礼仪

在商务交往中，因为各种各样的实际需要，商务人员必须对一定的交往对象发出约请，邀请对方出席某项活动，或是前来我方作客。这类性质的活动，被商务礼仪称之为邀约。

在民间，邀约有时还被称为邀请或邀集。站在交际这一角度来看待邀约，它实质上乃是一咱双向的约定行为。当一方邀请另一方或多方人士，前来自己的所在地或者其他某处地方约会，以及出席某些活动时，他不能仅凭自己的一厢情愿行事，而是必须取得被邀请方的同意与全伤口。作为邀请者，不能不自量力，无事无非，自寻烦恼，既麻烦别人，又自讨没趣。作为被邀请者，则需要及早地作出合乎自身利益与意愿的反应。不论是邀请者，还是被邀请者，都必须把邀约当作一种正规的商务约会来看待，对它绝对不可以掉以轻心，大而划之。

对邀请者而言，发出邀请，如同发出一种礼仪性很强的通知一样，不仅要求力求合乎礼貌，取得被邀请者的良好回应，而且还必须使之符合双方各自的身份，以及双方之间关系的现状。

在一般情况下，邀约有正式与非正式之分。正式的邀约，既讲究礼仪，又要设法使被邀请者备忘，故此它多采用书面的形式。非正式的邀约，通常是以口头形式来表现的。相对而言，它要显得随便一些。

正式的邀约，有请柬邀约、书信邀约、传真邀约、电报邀约、便条邀约等等具体形式。它适用于正式的商务交往中。非正式的邀约，也有当面邀约、托人邀约以及打电话邀约等不同的形式。它多适用于商界人士非正式的接触之中。前者可统称为书面邀约，后者则可称为口头邀约。

根据商务礼仪的规定，在比较正规的商务往来之中，必须以正式的邀约作为邀约的主要形式。因此，有必要对它作出较为详尽的介绍。

在正式邀约的诸形式之中，档次最高，也最为商界人士所常用的当属请柬邀约。凡精心安排、精心组织的大型活动与仪式，如宴会、舞会、纪念会、庆祝会、发布会、单位的开业仪式等等，只有采用请柬邀请佳宾，才会被人视之为与其档次相称。

请柬又称请帖，它一般由正文与封套两部分组成。不管是上待购买印刷好的成品，还是自行制作，在格式上行文上，都应当遵守成规。

请柬正文的用纸，大都比较考究。它多用厚纸对折而成。以横式请柬为例，对折后的左面外侧多为封面，右面内侧则为正文的行文之处。封面通常讲究采用红色，并标有“请柬”二字。请柬内侧，可以同为红色，可采用其他颜色。但民间忌讳用黄色与黑色，通常不可采用。在请柬上亲笔书写正文时，应采用钢笔或毛笔，并选择黑色、蓝色的墨水或墨水汁。红色、紫色、绿色、黄色以及其他鲜艳的墨水，则不宜采用。

目前，在商务交往中所采用的请柬，基本上都是横式请柬。它的行文，是自左向右，自上而下地横写的。除此之外，还有一种竖式请柬。它的行文，则是自上而下的，自右而左地竖写的。作为中国传统文化的一种形式，竖式请柬多用于民间的传统性交际应酬。因此在这里将它略去不提。

在请柬的行文中，通常必须包括活动形式、活动时间、活动地点、活动要求、联络方式以及邀请人等项内容.