改变自我的方法

下面是我对自我缺点的总结：

缺点1、比较以自我为中心

缺点2、比较爱虚荣

缺点3、遇事不稳定、急躁

缺点4、不会适当拒绝别人过分要求

缺点5、胆子太小

缺点6、综合能力不强

缺点7、办事能力有待提高

缺点8、不了解自己衣着

缺点9、感情太丰富，对感情没定性

缺点10、学习不够认真

缺点11、做事犹豫，不果断

缺点12、不够自信

缺点13、不够成熟

缺点14、有点从众心理

缺点14、不太会表达好自己的情感

缺点15、和朋友之间在交流相处上还有待提高

缺点16、太在意外界对自己的看法、评价

缺点17、想得多，做的少

缺点18、遇到选择的时候，缺少理性的思考

缺点19、做事比较冲动，考虑不全后果

缺点20、自尊心太强，内心很敏感，不够强大

缺点21、受外界影响后情绪起伏比较大

缺点22、缺少坚持到底的耐心

缺点23、轻易相信别人

缺点24、容易以偏概全

针对以上二十五个缺点，我提出了具体的一些改正方法，其实只要我们养成了一些好习惯，就能发现自己在不经意间改掉了很多的缺点。

1.确定方向 不走冤枉路

俗话说："马壮车好不如方向对"，这句话的典故来自春秋战国时期，有位夫子备了很多物品，欲前往南方楚国，便向路人问路，路人答："此路非往楚国。"

夫子说："我的马很壮，没关系。"路人又再强调这不是去楚国的方向，夫子依然固执的说："我的车很坚固。"路人只好叹息的说："这不是往楚国的方向啊！"方向错误，再怎么努力都枉然。

仔细想想做这项工作的重点是什么，希望藉此得到什么结果，这样做之后是不是真的能得到想要的结果，与你的主管及上下游流程的同事一同讨论，再决定整个方向及流程。

2.做行事历及项目执行计划

以一天的计划表来说，首先列出你必须做的事，这些是你今天的首要工作；然后再列出应该做的事，以及可以做但并不急于一时的事。然后评估各项工作所需的时间再决定如何把时间分配到这些工作上。记住，应该把最重要的事情放在一天中状况最好的时间内去做。一天的时间规划完成后，可以延伸成一周的计划，决定一周内最重要及必须做的事。每天要确认行程是否照计划进行。

3.运用系统思考，工作分门别类进行

养成把握重点，循序渐进，集中力量的习惯，决定次序，从最重要的事情着手。我们必须先决定哪一个工作比较重要，必须优先去做；那些比较不重要，可以缓办。不考虑优先次序所产生的另一结果，常是一无所成，而且被拖延或耽搁的事情，等之后再提出时，往往已失去时效性。

·依工作的重要性决定完成工作的优先级。

·依工作的重要性决定投入工作的时间。

·同性质、同种类、类似性高的工作一次解决。

·不断地思考是否有更有效率的工作方法。

·避免用过大的手段达成较小的目的以造成浪费，如杀鸡焉用牛刀。

4.事前准备需周到

在工作过程中再花时间去寻找所需的资料或工具，只会事倍功半，徒增出错的机会。事前即将一切所需都准备好，即取即用。

·随时准备好"最新"的信息："资料"的随时更新与增删，可以让我们永远掌握到最新的讯息，并随时将它做好整编、归类等的工作，以供我们随时掌握最新的状况，并可迅速做出正确的思考判断。

·要有"工具库"的观念：随时将自己的知识、经验、技能等，做好转换成工具的观念，以便随时可以拿出来运用，或重新组合，以便缩短时间、提高效率，增加更多的成功机率。

·寻找自己的"良师"：在公司内外寻求一群具备不同专业技能与职位的良师，藉由良师的经验、智能与人脉关系，可以提供各类的协助。

小箴言：当你在做小事情的时候，你必须想"大事情"，以便让所有的小事情都能朝正确的方向前进。----趋势专家艾文·托佛勒（Alvin Toffler）

5.不断学习新的知识与技能

在十倍速生涯里，工作变换得快，工作速度本身也快，加上外在环境及产业新知识加速产生，若不加紧学习脚步，就可能像老牛拖着重车，或是一个折旧严重的汽车却开在高速公路上一样，不仅充满了无力感，更会遭受时代无情的淘汰。"苦干"是成功的充分或基本条件，但它并不能保证成功，今天我们还要聪明工作，只有不断学习才能提升工作效率及创新。

不断学习对工作能力的增进很重要，综观古今中外成功人士，或是观察卓越企业的主管，主动发问、参加课程，甚至只是默默观察别人怎么做，都能从中学习到新知与技术，再消化出更有效的做事方法与解决问题之道。

6.时刻保持一颗创意的心

有创造力，才不会为了一些问题苦思对策，在无例可循的情况下，急得像热锅上的蚂蚁，坐立难安。时时评估创意带来的好成果，在过程中你会领悟到，

利用创意来解决问题是一种快乐而有趣的事，培养创意绝对是企业人必备的技巧之一。

培养创造力的方法有以下几种：

·开放心胸，经常注意周遭的环境，就像科学家一样善于观察四周的一举一动，就可发现很多新方法能解决老问题。

检视所有可能的方案，千万别因"不可能"、"幼稚"、"没人成功过"或是"从没听说过"而轻易放弃。

·善用自己的第六感，保有敏锐的感觉，放松身心，运用你的灵感，突破思维的限制。

·抽离各个解决问题方案的精华，予以分类整理，再重新组合，看看彼此的关系如何，能否衍生出新的观点。

以上是我经过自我反思之后发现自己存在缺点和问题，我很希望自己能找到正确方法尽快改正自己缺点和解决存在问题，全面提高自己能力和素质，使自己在各方面都能顺利，完成自己学习和在工作、生活中找到自己合适位置。

我希望自己能尽快改正，彻底改正，提高自己综合能力和办事能力，不断完善自己人际关系，充分了解自己，争取有较短时间使自己在各方面取得优异成绩，完成大学本科学位，顺利通过司法考试和公务员考试，以及准备研究生考试。希望自己能在以后学习生活当中找到正确自己，做自己合适事情，寻找合适自己方向，追求自己理想和信念，追求自己人生，追求自己爱情。

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第二篇：30种改变自我的方法

Feeling Stuck? 100 Ways to Change your Life你觉得被困住了吗？100种方法让你改变你的生活by Nora DunnYou've got 20 minutes to change your life in 100 ways. Go. 你有20分钟的时间，用100种方式改变生活。现在就开始吧!This is the premise of an exercise I tried once, when I was feeling stuck in life. I wasn't sure what was amiss, but the routine I had fallen into was not satisfying the inner voice in me that insisted there was something else out there for me. 这是当我觉得被生活困住时，我试过的一个练习。我不确定哪里出了差错，但是例行生活并不能满足我的内在呼唤。我坚信在某处必定还有某些事物在等着我。After trying (forcefully) to understand what was going on, reading self-help books, filling out aptitude tests, and working with business and life coaches, I was given a suggestion that became a catalyst for some pretty big personal changes.在试着（强迫）去了解到底发生了什么事，阅读了自我帮助的书，填写了性向测验，接受事业及生活上的咨询，我得到的建议是，去催化一些非常重要的个人转变发生。Here is how you can change your life in 20 minutes, step by step:以下是你能在20分钟内改变生活的步骤:1. Clear all distractions. Turn off the phone, the tv, the computer. Lock your door, and go to a quiet place. 排除所有会让你分心的事物。关掉电话，电视及电脑。锁上门，找一个安静的所在。2. Sit down comfortably at a desk or table, with a blank piece of paper and a pen in front of you. 舒适地安坐在书桌或桌子旁，在你的面前摆上一张空白的纸及一支笔。3. Set a timer for 20 minutes. 将定时器设定为20分钟。本帖隐藏的内容需要回复才可以浏览4. Go. Write down 100 things you want to do. Or careers you want to have. Or people you would like to meet. The sky is the limit. 计时开始。写下100件你想要做的事。或是你想要从事的职业。或你想要遇见的人.天马行空，毫无限制。5. Don’t be realistic. Dream big. Write down the craziest things you can think of, as well as the things that you don't even think bear mentioning because they are so simple. Write it all down. 不需要太实际。勇敢去梦。写下你能想到的最疯狂的事。或者是那些简单到你觉得根本不需要去提起的事。全都写下来。6. Work quickly. 20 minutes isn't very long, and you have 100 items to get through, if you can. Don't think about whether or not to write down an idea - just write. Write everything that comes to mind, even if it doesn't make sense. Just keep on writing, and don't stop until that timer goes off. 动作快一点。20分钟并不长。而且你还有100件事要想，如果你能完成的话。表考虑要是否该写下某件事。尽管写就是了。写

下每件浮现在你脑海的事，就算是不合理的想法也无所谓。尽管继续写，表停，一直到定时器响起。Something happens after about 10 or 15 minutes if you employ the exercise to its full potential. You stop caring about what specifically the ideas are, and you start to release an inner creativity that may have been locked away for a while. In an effort to get through 100 things in 20 minutes, you start to write outlandish things down that you aren't even really sure you want, but that are ideas that came to you nonetheless. 如果你有将这个练习的效果发挥到极致，10到15分钟后，就会有改变发生了。你将不再介意这些想法的具体内容为何，而是开始释放你内在被禁锢已久的创造力。在试着在20分钟内列出100件事的过程中，你正开始列出一些你不确定你是否渴望过的稀奇古怪的事，但是这些想法仍然奔向你。Ding! The timer goes off. No matter where you are in the process, or how many items you have written down, stop. (Okay, if you are really on a roll and have a few more to write down because the juices are flowing, keep going. I won't tell). 叮! 时间到了。不管你进行到哪里，和你已列出多少事项，立即停止。（好吧！如果你做得正顺手或还有一些要补充，那就继续吧！我不会告诉别人的。）Leave the list alone for a day. Try not to look at it, and certainly don't revise it in any way. The following day, sit down and look at your list. How many of the items on it are feasible? Can you see your way to accomplishing any of it? Did anything come out of the list that you hadn't actually really thought of until you wrote it down in a hurried attempt to get to 100 items in the time limit? Any surprises in there? 把这张单子放个一天。试着不去看它，当然更表修改它。第二天，坐下并检视你的列表。有多少项目是可行的? 你知道该如何去实践它吗？有多少项是你从没想过直到你把它列在单子上只为了要在时间内凑足100项? 有任何惊喜隐藏其中吗?The point of this exercise is not to create a giant and outlandish "to-do" list that never gets ticked off. Instead, it is simply to open up your mind to the idea that anything is possible, and to give you ideas that will help you to become unstuck in life. 这个练习的重点是，表去创造出一个巨大古怪的“待办“清单。它的目的是为了打开你的心，去接受任何可能的想法，并提供你一些帮助你走出生命困境的解决之道。Personally after feeling stuck and making out my list, I identified a few ways to make positive changes in my life at the time; I joined Toastmasters because an item I wrote down was to become a public speaker. I also eventually started a blog to satisfy an inner wordsmith in me that has blossomed into a career. And ultimately, the list helped lead me to t

he decision to sell off everything I owned to live out my dreams of travel and adventure now. 就我个人来说，在我列出了我的清单后，我找出了一些方式让我的生活有正向的转变。我加人了Toastmasters（国际演讲者小组）因为我所列出的其中一项就是要成为一个演讲者。我也终于建立了一个博客来满足我内在的呼唤，而最后这也发展成了我的事业。最终，这张单子引导我去出清所有的家当，然后去实现我旅行及探险的梦想。And it all started with 20 minutes and 100 ways to change my life.而这一切的转变，都开始于20分钟及100种方法。本帖隐藏的内容需要回复才可以浏览4. Go. Write down 100 things you want to do. Or careers you want to have. Or people you would like to meet. The sky is the limit. 计时开始。写下100件你想要做的事。或是你想要从事的职业。或你想要遇见的人.天马行空，毫无限制。5. Don’t be realistic. Dream big. Write down the craziest things you can think of, as well as the things that you don't even think bear mentioning because they are so simple. Write it all down. 不需要太实际。勇敢去梦。写下你能想到的最疯狂的事。或者是那些简单到你觉得根本不需要去提起的事。全都写下来。6. Work quickly. 20 minutes isn't very long, and you have 100 items to get through, if you can. Don't think about whether or not to write down an idea - just write. Write everything that comes to mind, even if it doesn't make sense. Just keep on writing, and don't stop until that timer goes off. 动作快一点。20分钟并不长。而且你还有100件事要想，如果你能完成的话。表考虑要是否该写下某件事。尽管写就是了。写下每件浮现在你脑海的事，就算是不合理的想法也无所谓。尽管继续写，表停，一直到定时器响起。Something happens after about 10 or 15 minutes if you employ the exercise to its full potential. You stop caring about what specifically the ideas are, and you start to release an inner creativity that may have been locked away for a while. In an effort to get through 100 things in 20 minutes, you start to write outlandish things down that you aren't even really sure you want, but that are ideas that came to you nonetheless. 如果你有将这个练习的效果发挥到极致，10到15分钟后，就会有改变发生了。你将不再介意这些想法的具体内容为何，而是开始释放你内在被禁锢已久的创造力。在试着在20分钟内列出100件事的过程中，你正开始列出一些你不确定你是否渴望过的稀奇古怪的事，但是这些想法仍然奔向你。Ding! The timer goes off. No matter where you are in the process, or how many items you have written down, stop. (Okay, if you are really on a roll and have a few more to write down because the juices a

re flowing, keep going. I won't tell). 叮! 时间到了。不管你进行到哪里，和你已列出多少事项，立即停止。（好吧！如果你做得正顺手或还有一些要补充，那就继续吧！我不会告诉别人的。）Leave the list alone for a day. Try not to look at it, and certainly don't revise it in any way. The following day, sit down and look at your list. How many of the items on it are feasible? Can you see your way to accomplishing any of it? Did anything come out of the list that you hadn't actually really thought of until you wrote it down in a hurried attempt to get to 100 items in the time limit? Any surprises in there? 把这张单子放个一天。试着不去看它，当然更表修改它。第二天，坐下并检视你的列表。有多少项目是可行的? 你知道该如何去实践它吗？有多少项是你从没想过直到你把它列在单子上只为了要在时间内凑足100项? 有任何惊喜隐藏其中吗?The point of this exercise is not to create a giant and outlandish "to-do" list that never gets ticked off. Instead, it is simply to open up your mind to the idea that anything is possible, and to give you ideas that will help you to become unstuck in life. 这个练习的重点是，表去创造出一个巨大古怪的“待办“清单。它的目的是为了打开你的心，去接受任何可能的想法，并提供你一些帮助你走出生命困境的解决之道。Personally after feeling stuck and making out my list, I identified a few ways to make positive changes in my life at the time; I joined Toastmasters because an item I wrote down was to become a public speaker. I also eventually started a blog to satisfy an inner wordsmith in me that has blossomed into a career. And ultimately, the list helped lead me to the decision to sell off everything I owned to live out my dreams of travel and adventure now. 就我个人来说，在我列出了我的清单后，我找出了一些方式让我的生活有正向的转变。我加人了Toastmasters（国际演讲者小组）因为我所列出的其中一项就是要成为一个演讲者。我也终于建立了一个博客来满足我内在的呼唤，而最后这也发展成了我的事业。最终，这张单子引导我去出清所有的家当，然后去实现我旅行及探险的梦想。And it all started with 20 minutes and 100 ways to change my life.而这一切的转变，都开始于20分钟及100种方法。