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《女人20几岁应该知道的事》读书心得

这是一本献给女人一生的书，是一本可以改变女人命运的心灵成长之作。它不像《遇见未知的自己》、《穆斯林的葬礼》一样给人以心灵的震撼，但它会在潜移默化中影响着人的人生观、价值观，给人灵魂的慰藉，心灵的成长。

我是今年暑假在家的时候看的这本书，两个月的时间，我只看了这一本书，但毫不夸张的说，这算是我的一次蜕变。这本书并不是典型的心理学读本，没有任何的心理学案例，它不会教给你什么是潜意识、什么是意象，应该怎样倾听、怎样给他人做咨询，它所告诉你的，是更加宝贵的财富：女人应该以何种姿态面对工作、面对社会、面对生活，从而拥有幸福的人生。

最开始看这本书时，并不怎么感兴趣，“女人要有从容的心态”、“女人要生气不如去争气”，这些条条框框的理论以前不知道听过多少遍，多少也有些厌烦。但出于女生的本性，我还是被第二章“花样女人，‘妆’点人生”、“穿衣适合自己的气质”、“最美不过女人味”这些小标题吸引住了，就从

第二章开始看。慢慢的我完全沉浸在了里面，甚至在吃饭走路时也会思考它里面的道理。以前总认为追求美丽是女人虚荣心的表现，是内心空虚而利用外表来吸引人的工具。但现在我对美有了全新的定义。女人可以不漂亮，但一定要美丽。美丽是一个综合的概括，它有外在的形式，但更侧重于内在的修养。外在美在于修饰，而内在美则在于修炼。只有内外兼修，女人才会永恒美丽。

这本书中，最让我深有感悟的就是“从容”二字。之前我们每个人都无数遍的听过这两个字，但不知道大家有没有深层次的去思考自己是否做到了这一点。很多道理我们可能听过无数遍，但仅仅是停留在“听”这个层面上，没有真正的去领悟，或许在未来的某一天，你遇到了某些困境，你纠结痛苦不

知所措时，你才会对某些道理恍然大悟。这就是收获，就是我们宝贵的人生财富。我是在经历前两个月的忙碌后,才慢慢的理解从容的心态。很多同学经常对我说“感觉你每天都很

忙”。忙只是一个相互比较的概念。在学生会这一年多，我一大半的课余时间都用在了那里，大一时也觉得自己很忙，但到大二因筹办活动而忙到一天吃不上一顿饭时，我才知道原来我的大一并不算忙。现在活动办完，我有充足的时间去思考、去总结。大二这三个月，我经历了两种完全不同的生活，两种完全不同的心境。大二刚开始时，我已决心退出学生会，准备把所有精力都放在学习上。大半个月的时间，我都是在教室、自习室、寝室间徘徊，看似充实但心里却很空虚。除了看书、练字、听音乐，我不知道我还能做什么、还该做什么，只能说脑袋里满满的，心里却是空空的。9月底，因为一些特殊原因，我又不得不重新回到学生会。从那时开始，我的生活就完全进入了另一种状态。大一我是学生会一名普通干事的时候就有两个心愿：一是自己能够亲自带一届新干事，二是自己能够亲自办一届模特大赛。再次回到学生会，我开始为我的心愿一点一点努力。在这个过程中，不知遇到了多少困难，但我不会再像过去那样因困难难以解决而感到痛苦纠结。做事之前我会猜想各种突发状况的发生，即便有些情况出乎我的意料，我仍会以平和而从容的心态去对待。每天充实而忙碌的生活虽然很辛苦，但在这个过程中，我的努力得到了认可，找到了自我价值，更多的是内心的满足。“匆忙的生活中我们需要一种从容的心态，不以物喜，不以己悲”，这是我很喜欢的一句话，也是我一直想要追求的心境。

这两个星期的思考算是对前一阶段的一次小总结，最重要的我收获了两点。一、遇到困难要学会坚强。很简单的一句话，但当你真正面对这种处境时却很难做到。坚强并不是倔强更不是强悍，它是情感的一种理性依托。它让痛苦纠结的人把目光投向远方，然后给自己一个信步生活的理由。二、忙碌的生活未必是一件好事。过于忙碌就不会有时间去思考，就会成

为工作的机器。青春需要奋斗、需要忙碌，但忙碌中我们仍然需要一颗从容的心，要学会慢下脚步去思考自己的目标，这样才不至于在前进的过程中迷失方向。

对于女人的一生而言，20多岁是起决定性作用的“最关键的时期”。20几岁的美丽，宝贵得经不起犹豫、浪费和挥霍；20几岁的青春，重要到能决定你一生的成败与否；20几岁的选择，影响到你余生的事业、爱情和家庭；20几岁的规划，决定了女人一生幸福运行的轨迹。希望刚刚踏入或将要踏入20岁这个门槛的每一位同学，都能够努力珍惜我们宝贵的青春，最关键的时刻，做最重要的事情。

 

第二篇：《白衣女人》读书笔记

THE PRECEDENT OF DETECTIVE NOVEL , THE PORTRAIT OF SOCIAL REALITY

—— From 《The Woman In White》

Wilkie Collins

Fortunately，I have a chance to read The Woman In White written by Wilkie Collins which was a collection of manuscript narratives by individual characters and an epistolary novel . It was the author’s first detective novel which was published in 1860 and also initiated an additional way for English literature.

PART ONE: About Wilkie Collins

William Wilkie Collins, writer of short stories and originator of detective novels in English, was born in 1824. The son of a respected landscape painter, he was named after his painter godfather, David Wilkie. Educated in London, Collins studied to become a lawer, although it was never his intention to practise, and by 1848 he had turned to writing. He was hugely popular in his time ,and 27 novels ,more than 50 short stories , at least 15 plays and over 100 pieces of non-fiction work.His best -known works are The woman In white , The Moonstone and Armadale.

PART TWO: About the work

The Woman in White is an epistolary novel written by Wilkie Collins.Taking the characteristic of heroes' similar appearance as the main background, the author expresses human being's spirits of risking one's life for great love .It is consi -dered to be among the first mystery novels and is wildly regarded as one of the first and finest in the genre of ‘sensation novels’. Besides, his narrative style —the use of multiple narratives, which moves from character to character,makes the novel

specially wonderful, as Collins points out in his preamble, ‘the story here presented will be told by more than one pen, as the story of an offence against the law is told in court by more than one witness.’

The novel famously opens with Walter Hartright's eerie encounter with the woman in white on the moonlit London road,which has laid a solid foundation to the whole story and has transmitted to us a picture full of suspenses. When engaged as a drawing master to beautiful Laura Fairlie, whose appearance presents something analogous to the woman in white concerned above, He deeply fell in love with the heroine Laura. However, she had to marry percival absolutely without character in his father's arrangement who had been coveted her property and marry her for it alone. Sir and Laura's uncle Fosco colluded with each other and persecuted her sister anne to death ,whose appearance presented something analogous to Laura in the vile way of bait -and-switch ,and then held a public funeral by taking anni as the Percival's wife. At the same time ,they brought Laura into delimma instead of anne.

Afterwards, the novel turns back to Hartright’s angle and recounts his reunion with Laura and Marian. Finally, failing to resort to the law, they helped Laura escape from delimma with their own witness and brave.At the end of the book, Hartright tells in detail how he looks for evidence of Sir Percival and Fosco’s crime and how the two evil men are stewed in their own juice, what’s more, the real identity of the woman in white is finally uncovered . After all, the story had a happy ending.Laura and Walter got married and had a son,who became the master of Limmerig House after Mr Farlie's death. Through the whole story , the author aims to express human being's spirits of risking one's life for great love,specifically including friendship, affection and love in this novel !

PART THREE: About Writing Styles

This book is wonderfully written . Firstly, it is considered to be among the first mystery novels and is wildly regarded as one of the first and finest in the genre of ‘sensation novels’,which has been confirmed than shaken by many authoritative literary critics ,and Since the novel's first publication in 1860, generations of readers have experienced just this sensation..The whole story is so suspenseful that when reading it, the reader is always looking for the answer in a sense of curiosity. The second One is about the narrative method.Collins uses different narrators--perh- aps eight altogether, but two or three main ones—to tell different aspects of the whole story, and then he puts each of them in order to infer the clues, finally annouces the surprisingly real facts. In this way, Collins creates vivid, memorable characters (ranging from brave intelligentto the surprising and sinister Count Fosco) who tell the story from the angle of their own interest.

PART FOUR : Character Analysis

There are many characters in this story, such as the heroine Laura,her half-sister Marian ,the woman in white Anne and the painter Walter Hartright and so on . For example, Laura is gentle,sensitive,and it can be said that in man's eyes, she is a perfect woman, but somehow in other words, Soft words, fine sentiments, noble taste ,all of these are just a byword for weakness. it was laura's weakness that caused her to the tragedy. Different from Laura, Marian is strong ,ugly, independent and wearing two kinds of gender roles . If it is said that Jane Eyre is the first heroine with a mediocre appearence in the history of English literature,

while Marianne is the first ugly woman ."the woman is dark," "she is young," "she's ugly," "a firm, man's big mouth and chin." ,all of which are the descriptions to her. However, she left a memorable, special impression to the reader .She is a noble woman ,her irresistible charm is not her appearance but her beautiful soul, intelligent minds and independent personality ! In a word , no matter what kinds of traits, all characters left the social imprint at that time.

When reading the book for the first time, I inferred from the title that the woman in white was a ghost (who knows why!)so I fully expected some specter to rise out of the misty moors. Instead, I was surprised to find myself in the grip of a diabolical and tragic tale told by several different and distinct voices .This book kept me in wanting more after every page and it was very hard to set it down to get other stuff done.Let it be read over again and there will be found on every page the reason why it is called a classic literature work!

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