The Relationship between Friends

Referring friend, the word “relation” will always be a link in it. How to keep the relationship? How to control the relationship properly?

In these days, I met some problems about making friend. In the high school, Shan and I was the close friend. In the boy’s eyes, she was beautiful and charming. To the teachers, she was intelligent and docile. But in my eye s, she was just my best friend. It came to the point that we had to say goodbye after graduating from high school, we also had confidence that our friendship would last forever. But forever may only exist in my imagination.

We entered the different universities. At the first days, we made phone calls at least half an hour a day. We talked about our university. They were new and fresh. In the following days, we sent messages instead of calling. She told me she was busy with attending different meetings. At first, she was nervous. Because of the minister’s leading, she could control it well. Also, she had her first boyfriend. They hung out at weekends.

Hearing that, I could feel her happiness exactly.

Things didn’t happen as smooth as I thought. At the end of last term, we rarely kept in touch with each other.

In the summer vocation, I met her again. She had changed a lot in appearance. She looked modern, more attractive. We were not as excited as I thought. She said hello to me as if nothing happened between us. Her passive words forced my tears to come out. Tears rolled down my check and I just wiped them away myself. At that moment, I felt our close relationship would break up.

I am puzzled now, should I resave the relationship or just to let her go.

 

第二篇：A repot of how to win friends1《人性的弱点》英文读书报告

How to Win Friends & Influence People

A repot of how to win friends & influence people

By Dale Carnegie

How can we make people like us? Sometimes, you may feel upset when others ignored you. Does he hate me? Why? A rariety of questions may under in your mind. After reading the book, I leave learned six ways to make people like you. Whether it is helpful to foster a good relationship between you and other people, I'm also eager to share with you.

First, do this and you'll be welcome anywhere. Do you know which world is the most frequently used? You could guess it, it is the personal pronoun "I". When we talk to a person, we had better take others' feeling into consideration. A successful man are not bound to think himself all the time. For example, Mr. Thurston, who was the acknowledged dean of magicians. His cecrests of his success was two things. On the other hand, he had the ability to put his personality across the footlights. On the other hand, Thurston had a genuine interest in people. Many magicians look at the audience and say to themselves, "well, there is a bunch of suckers out there, a bunch of hicks; I'll fool them all right." But Thurston's method was totally different. Before he stepping in front of the footlights without first saying to himself over and over,"I love my audience. I love my audience."If we want to make friends, let's put ourselves out to do things for other people; let's great people with animation and enthusiasm.

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How to Win Friends & Influence People

Second, make a good first impression. The expression on wears on one's face is far more important than the clothes on wears on one's back. Your smiles brightens the lives of all who see it. As the story tells us, to someone who has seen a dozen people from, scowl or turn their faces away, your smile is like the sun breaking through the clouds. Therefore, when our friends, parents or relatives are under pressure from a variety of troubles, we should give them our smiles which can help them realize that all is not hopeless---that there is joy in the world.

Third, we should be aware of the magic contained in a name and realize that this single item is wholly and completely owned by the people with whom we are dealing. The names of ourselves are the symbols of our identities. We are all unique. Sometimes it is difficult for us to keep others' names in mind because we chose to ignore him or his pronounce is hard. On my opinion, if a person who has not got very acquainted with me calls me, I may feel better because I know it is a respect.

Four, be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves. In our daily life, have you found that you want to be a center in a crowd? Do you feel happy when the audience are listening to you? Of course, everyone hopes that there are friends or parents willing to listen to their words, especially in a sad or gloomy situation. Therefore, learning to be good listener is an important ability to help others and make become your friends.

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How to Win Friends & Influence People

Five, talk in terms of the other person's interest. What reward you can receive is not only a different reward from each person but that in general the reward had been an enlargement of his life each time he spoke to others. For example, whenever Roosevelt expected a visitor, he sat up late the night before, reading up on the subject in which he knew his guest was particularly interested. Thus, we should prepare everything if we want to be successful.

Six, make the other person feel important-and do it sincerely. As the story said: There is one all important law of human conduct. If we obey that law, we shall almost never get into trouble. In fact, that law, if obeyed, will bring us countless friends and constant happiness. But the very instant we break the law, we shall get into endless trouble. The law is this: Always make the other person feel important.

I believe that if you follow the principles, the possibilities to win friends are bound to be greater.

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