早就在各大主流媒体上对这位中国式的美国妈妈有所耳闻，但是那时我对她并没有什么兴趣，心想一定是那种最古老的中国式教育方法，只因它出现在了美国社会所以才变得如此轰动，然而这次看完有关虎妈的采访视频和《虎妈战歌》的节选却让我对她有了更加深刻的认识。

首先我对书本里面的十条规矩觉得非常的不可思议，作者对孩子的要求太严格了，孩子的童年可以说是没有自由的。孩子缺少了自己的玩乐时间，这样的孩子虽然可能会很成功，但是她们有可能不能很好地和同学或者朋友相处，她们可能会患上自闭症。

这位美国妈妈给我最大启发的其实并不在于她的教育方法本身，可以说，我并不十分赞同她近乎极端、非人性的教育方法，其严厉和苛刻的程度甚至连中国妈妈都望尘莫及。使我受益最大的是蔡美儿在教育女儿过程中所表现出的自信、坚持、追求和勤奋。

她严格秉承中国式的教育方法，这在一个美国家庭和美国社会中就是特例、是不可理喻的，事实也证明了这一点。蔡美儿不仅仅要时刻与女儿斗智斗勇应对来自于女儿们的反抗，她还要有更大的勇气去面对来自丈夫、婆婆、父母，甚至是周围朋友、同事乃至整个社会的质疑和反对。在那样的环境中，一个女人之所以能如此执着地坚持下去，最根本的是来自于她的自信。她对自己的教育方法十分有信心，她坚信自己是对的，坚信自己如今的严厉和苛刻都是为女儿的未来负责，她更坚信自己为女儿所做的选择对于女儿来说是适合的、明智的。有了这份自信，她还要有更大的勇气去坚持，最令我佩服的就是她的这份坚持。在坚持的过程中，她与丈夫无数次争吵，与婆婆无数次发生不快，甚至让女儿当众羞辱气得在俄罗斯红场上边哭边跑不顾旁人投来各种异样的目光。

很多次我都在设想，如果我是蔡美儿，我一定早就放弃了，早就在周遭人的质疑声中开始对自己的教育方法产生质疑，逐渐怀疑自己，失去自信，最终选择放弃。

但事实上我既不同意蔡美儿的做法也不同意美国的教育孩子的方式，这些方式是两个极端，无论怎样，始终会对孩子的全方位的发展造成一定的影响。在我看来，教育孩子既要严格也要给孩子一些私人的空间，这样孩子在父母的监督下可以很努力地学习，同时也有自己的想法，这样孩子可以更加地优秀，具有创新的能力。

中国的教育方式一值都是以严格出名的，那是因为中国的父母对孩子的期望非常的高，都希望自己的孩子的成绩比别人的孩子优秀，希望自己的孩子可以考上名牌的大学，然后能够拥有一份好的工作。父母的这种想法完全是为了自己孩子的未来着想，父母们并不要求自己能够得到孩子的报答。但是。随着社会的发展，许多家长和学校都渐渐地注重孩子的创新意识，培养孩子的独立能力，注重孩子的个性发展，也会更加尊重孩子的兴趣爱好。

《虎妈战歌》告诉了我：虎妈的教育方式可能有效，但是这并不适合每个人，每个孩子的个性有不同，父母们应该根据自己孩子的实际情况因材施教，只有这样培育出来的孩子的整体素质才能是最棒的。

Early in the mainstream media I have heard of the Chinese American mother, but I wasn't interested in her, I thought, it must be the oldest Chinese education method, because it appears in the American society and become such a sensation, but after watching the tiger mother’s video interview and the excerpt of《Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother》 let me have a more profound understanding of her

First , in my opinion the rules felt really incredible for children's requirements, the authors were too strict, child childhood can say is not free. Children without their own play time, this child though probably will be very successful, but they may not in good and classmates or friends, they may suffer from autism.

The American mother gives me the biggest inspiration is not in her education method itself,in fact,I don't quite agree with the method of education, she is extremely inhuman, its harsh and demanding extent even than Chinese mother. Make me the biggest benefit is Cai Meier shown in education process, adhere to the daughter, and diligent pursuit of self-confidence.

She strictly adhering to the Chinese way, this one in the United States and the United States of America society is the special case of family, is won't listen to reason, facts have proved this point. The tiger mother is not only a moment with her daughter to fight with from the daughters of resistance, she would also like to have more courage to face from her husband, mother-in-law, parents, friends, colleagues and even the whole society questioned and opposed. In that environment, a woman can be so eager to go, the most fundamental is from her confidence. She is quite confident about his approach to education, she believes that she is right now, convinced that their rigour is responsible for her daughter's future, she believe they do for her daughter's choice is suitable, sensible for daughter. With this confidence, she would have more courage to insist, I admire most is hers stick. In the process, she and her husband quarrel with countless times, countless unpleasant, even let her daughter to humiliate the gas in the Russian Red Square cried run regardless of other people to vote to all kinds of strange gaze.

Many times I imagine, if I was Chua, I would have given up, began to doubt their own education method in the surrounding people questioned in the sound, gradually doubt yourself, lose confidence, and ultimately choose to give up.

But actually I don't agree with either Amy Chua practice also disagree with American education child's way, these ways are the two extremes, no matter what, always will to children's overall development and produce certain effect. In my opinion, education child should not only strictly also give him some private space, so that the child under the supervision of the parents can be very hard to learn, also have their own thoughts, so that the child can more excellent, innovative ability.

China's education means a value are strictly famous, it is because of China's parents ambitions for their children is very high, all hope their children grades are better than someone else's child excellent, hope that their children can be admitted to the university, then can find a good job. Parents' the idea is entirely for their children's future, parents don't think request oneself can get children's reward. But. With the development of society, many parents and schools are gradually pay attention to children's innovation consciousness, develop the child's independent ability, pay

attention to children's personality development, also will be more respect your child's interests.

Tiger mother tell us the way that she do is effective , but this may have effective are not suitable for everyone, every child's personality has different, parents should according to the actual situation of their children in accordance with their aptitude, only such nurtured the overall quality of the children to is the best.

 

第二篇：虎妈战歌读后论文

The differences of family education between

China and America

【Abstract】This paper makes a comparison of family education between China and American based on a short novel written by a Chinese American woman called tiger mother . It is well known that family is the first school in children’s life. Family education often play a big part in physical development﹑nature talent and shape characters of children. Chinese parents ruled children’s life, arranged their matters and concerned about the grade scores. While American parents draw scant attention on children’s scores, and seems to be respect of children’s own thoughts, pay attention to ability development and intelligence advancement. We could aware of the merits in our family education from the comparison of family education between China and American based on tiger mother’s educational strategy.

Key words: China, America, family education, difference, parents, children, education

Body:

Chapter 1

Merits of Chinese family education

Chinese contemporary family education is greatly influenced by traditional Chinese culture and Chinese custom. It is also conditioned by the feudal family system. Most of people in China think that parents are rulers. Parents are supreme rulers. In one family only what the parents say goes, children have to do as they were told and have no rights to choose what they want. Most of the parents in China do not concern their children’s feeling; because they think what they do for the children is just the children’s needs. I am at the opinion that most of us oblivious one important aspect. that is children are not mature and what they want to do not always right and good for themselves, for example, in tiger mother’s novel, her daughter want to give up the violin course just because she wants to play, if her mother respect her choice, the little girl will not become a outstanding violinist. In tiger mother’s mind, her daughters are not allowed to stay night outside or go to friends’ party, she thinks that he who lies with dogs will rise with fleas, and she daughters may become bad by the harmful effect of society. I quite agree with her thoughts because the effect of environment for children is extremely great and if parents do not pay attention to who their children are play with the aftermath would be serious.

Chapter2

Merits of American family education

First: respect children, treat them equal. American parents have a high respect for their children’s idea. In order to cultivate children’s self-respect and self-confidence, parents will squat down when they talk with children. American children have the rights to do what they want, their parents never control them, what they will do is just a simple advice. Secondly: focus on independency. The most difference of family education between China and America is that American parents pay more attention to the development of children’s independence. Because they think children must form a self-supporting will and the ability to live by themselves since their childhood. Therefore, it is no strange to see many American children washing clothes, cooking and weeding. Third: economic independence. In America few parents will give pin money to children. Parents encourage children to work and earn money. According to statistics, about 54% American children can not get pin money from parents. American parents give children enough opportunity to contract with society which allows them to be fully trained in various matters since they were young. They think part-time job or something like that can gain their children’s experience and capability to adjust society.

Chapter 3

Personal opinions

We may know from what has been said above that both Chinese family education and the American counterpart are have the merits in different aspects, we should learn from the merits of American family education and absorb the essence of Chinese family education.

Now, please let me put forward some opinions to our family education.

First: stress on capability cultivation. Our Chinese parents are excessively cared about their children’s study. In order to make children have good points in study, they do not let children do anything except studying. This leads to the ability shortage of children in daily life. From my point of view, our parents should learn from American parents on family education to offer more opportunities to let children contact with society. Only the child who has tasted bitter without parent’s protection can gain the capability and confidence to adjust society. Secondly: respect children’s choice if the choice is reasonable. In China, children just like parents’ private property. In parents’ minds, children should be obedient to them. They make the decision for children and never thought of their feeling. This may lead to a bad result that is children are lack of interest in everything because all the things are arranged by their parents. While the American parents do not put pressure on their children. They believe that children have the right to decide something by themselves. American Parents and children have equal at home. Chinese parents should learn from the experience of American parents. Third: encouraging children. I always see a parent criticizing her child in public but never see a parent who praising her child in public. If the criticize last a long time, the children will be self-contempt. When they face difficulty they can not perform well. American parents encouraged their children to do anything they like. If the child finished it, they will say kind words of praise. This will help a lot on developing children’s confidence.

Conclusion

In this paper we have explored the difference of family education between China and America. From above we can see the Chinese family education have lots of merits and the American family education is also not bad. We should not only carry forward the good and traditional part of Chinese family education but also learn from the modern American family education. In this way, our next generation shall grow up healthy and strong.

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